Being Single

I don’t understand the fuss around here. Almost everyone in my group is married and the very first question when they call me is “When is your turn…!” as if it’s a bungee jumping thing.

In a way from what I hear and see I correlate marriage & bungee jumping and I found two things common in between both

• Both are expensive affairs

• Both start with an adrenaline rush

• Both have good safety precautions, but still it’s a pure probability that they will work ;)

Irrespective of the physical strength you possess, if the cord holds you tight you enjoy the show, or else.... darrr keestha yaha

The same here too...Irrespective of any amazing, marvelous, stupendous marriage material, it’s a probability.

Coming to the micro things, I don’t understand why there are people around me pushing for a marriage!! Yeah, I feel bored and lonely as my friends group are married and going to be married.But, it should not be a reason for a ransom! Science puts it as “be better on the other side”. It’s always a matter between the mind and heart. ‘How can a heart think…’ kept arguing a “once upon a time friend” of mine! Now that friend is married. So stopped thinking about it and does not argue also.

On top of all these is, none of the _______ guys who were around me are now married are not even picking my call to talk. While they return the call, the prominent thing in the conversation would be about me getting married. I seriously doubt that they are pushing me as they are jealous of me being single. (Few admit it too…they want revenge on me)

The group has shrunken a lot and divided as “married” and “still bachelors”. Nowadays I call only the ones in my group. The reason given by the married fellas is that they are very busy with other things in life – booking vacations, booking tickets for in-laws, attending in-laws family functions, feeding child and so on (the list goes on). They all sound alarming for me although I like being around with people. And at times I feel that I have to snap ties with the married fellas. They incept many things in my primitive mind. இதுக்குத்தான் கல்யாணம் ஆன பசங்களோட சேராதன்னு எங்க அம்மா அப்போவே சொன்னாங்க...!

The major push for marriage is of course from parents and the beloved relatives. Indian family attitude is a masterpiece! Sometimes, the conversations from friends and family happen together. And that’s the time I feel to press the eject button and go on a long solo ride with my mean machine. Pity me; the machine is still not realized…! So I am kind of cornered to listen to them as of now and I stop hard to make a thought about future.

The words “think”, “plan”, “responsibility” associated very closely with the opposite of the bachelor life appear to me like greek, latin and a kind of Spartacus fight.

One serious thing is that the “married” tag is a kind of social status and bachelors are like an endangered group by the once upon a time ‘single’ statuses!!! If you reading this, and by any chance have that kind of thought in your mind, rethink for a while.

It’s said, a lion in its forest hunts best when it is single. Being single relates very much to that:meaning - living life to the fullest (not hunting many) and I see that it cannot last long for me :'(

However, singam is single now.